If you and/or your partner are unhappy in your marriage please don’t despair. Because a marriage is going through a rocky patch, it doesn’t mean that the marriage is over. Far from it: many marriages plagued by rows, money worries, sexual problems – even infidelity – can be saved if one partner is prepared to commit to saving it.
Yes, even if only one partner wants the marriage to survive it can be done!
Face Up To The Truth
If you have marriage trouble the first thing you have to do is admit it. This can be difficult if you are the type of person who likes to avoid conflict. Although facing the truth may be painful you must honestly look at your marital relationship and work out what has gone wrong. This doesn’t mean apportioning blame – what this means is genuinely and honestly getting to the root of the problem. If you don’t know what’s broken in your relationship, you can’t fix it.
The second thing you have to do is communicate. You need to talk to your partner about the problems in your marriage and you need to be able to do this calmly and without shouting or arguing. If you can both talk openly and honestly about what you each think are the problems then you can begin the process of negotiation to make your marriage work.
If you find communicating with your spouse at all difficult the third step is to get help. Friends and family are not the best people to advise because they are most likely to take sides and this may make matters worse. Marriage counseling may help but both partners must commit to this to make it work.
My recommendation is to get some independent advice on how to solve your marriage problems from experts who have seen it all before. Go to my site ‘Marriage In Trouble‘ to find a wealth of third party resources to help you work through your problems and save your marrage.